Some gay guys are perfectly OK with the merry life of hooking up left and right, while others criticize that culture. For one guy on Reddit, trying to stay “decent” (in his eyes) proved troublesome in his social circle.
“I am 19 and moved to big city from a little town”, he writes, “which means I am not really used to it.”
And there begins his problem:
I recently got into the gay “scene”, and I absolutely love it. I have met some really nice friends, however, these friends have no sense of ethics or moral standards.
Basically they sleep around with their partners not knowing. My closest friend whom I thought was different, just admitted he got a boyfriend. He told me that he really cares about him, and that he is almost in love.However, today he just kissed around with several of the guys, and I just feel like what he said was a pile of shit. I am really against cheating and would be so devastated if my future boyfriend did that.
I love going out with these guys, I know it is superficial, but we get a lot of attention from other guys, and they usually wants to join us. Even though we just go for drinks at the local bar. I like the attention, but I am kinda conflicted by the situation and frankly scared of ending up with no friends in this big city.
My friend kinda disappointed me, and now I feel kinda like an outcast for wanting a decent relationship, even though they “support” me.
And he ends up with a call for advice: “Should I just don’t care or is this a red flag in a friendship?”
Some of the commenters answered the call with advice:
But is this the ultimate answer? –
